June 12, 2015

3 weeks ago

So much has changed since 3 weeks ago.  My dad was still amongst the living here on earth.  He wasn't doing well, and they put him on oxygen...he was having difficulty breathing and swallowing.  I still lay in bed at night, wondering "What could we have done?"  We were hoping the doctor would give him food via through the g-tube, where he had surgery 4 years ago to have a tube inserted so he could get medication that would go right to his small intestines instead of taking medication orally.  Honestly, I'm glad that didn't happen, because he wouldn't have wanted that.  He couldn't talk, really, barely a yes or no that last week...we miss him dearly. 
His funeral was in Loveland, OH.  His coffin is made of simple pine, painted around the sides with "Holy God, Holy Mighty, Holy Immortal have mercy on us."  My parents got both of their coffins a while ago, just to be ready.  Here are more photos from Dad's funeral and burial (which was in Jordanville, NY):
The burial service was served mainly by Fr. Chad Williams, who is Dad's Godson.  We had a nice dinner of soup, salad, fish, potatoes, peas and fruit salad at the monastery afterwards.  The kids ran around (mostly barefoot) in the grass after playing.  It was very nice to see family and old friends.
We took a week vacation to Tennessee.
Listening to a wonderful free bluegrass concert at Ole Smoky moonshine.
Beautiful morning sky in the Great Smoky Mountains.
 It really looks smoky there.
 The view from Clingman's dome.
 In Cade's cove...
We went to West Virginia last weekend for our friend's 90th birthday.
Freshly picked strawberries and cherries from some of our friends. ♥  Yum.

While on vacation, I read Radiance of Tomorrow by Ishmael Beah, about life after the war in Sierra Leone.  In the story, he describes how there, after someone dies, the next 40 days are important.  Same with those of us who are Orthodox Christians, we pray for the soul of our departed loved ones, that God will have mercy on them, because no one but Christ our God is Sinless.
This photo is on our bookshelf where we keep our spiritual reading and Bible, so that we remember to pray for my Dad's soul. 


elizabeth said...

that is such a dear photo (we just got a copy of it in the mail from your Mother <3, I immediately put it by other prayerful things in our living room, near the buffet where I light candles. We are praying for your family and your beloved newly departed +father daily. Sending love, prayers and HUGS....

ps: wonderful strawberries, the vacation looked wonderful and I love seeing your family. lots of love!!

Sarah in Indiana said...

So sorry to read about the falling asleep of your father. May his memory be eternal.

gretchenjoanna said...

Memory Eternal to your dear father.
What will be his 40th day? I wish I could be there to eat some koliva with you.
Before you know it your little baby will arrive, and you will all be so happy, but you won't miss your father any less. God bless you!

Heather said...

I was so saddened to hear of your loss. Your father seemed like an amazing man, and loved very much by so many! I remember you (or your sister?) mentioning when your parents had the coffins made. They are so simple and lovely.

How nice for you all to get to take a trip to the Great Smokies! I bet that concert was wonderful!~

Anonymous said...

My prayers. Love, Katayoun

Xenia Kathryn said...

Oh Martha, I'm so sorry to hear of your father's falling asleep in the Lord! You must miss him so much. My condolences to your whole family. May his memory be eternal!!
Much love from Oregon xoxo

Apseed said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. May God rest his soul.

Emily H. said...

May his memory be eternal!

WendyLady@GoodBooks said...

Thank you for sharing the wonderful photos - I am glad you could take some time with your family. Memory eternal for your father! I'm sorry he left this earth so young. xxoo

Shamassy Monica said...

May your Father rest peacefully in the Light of Christ! My condolences!